29. Seven Weddings and a Funeral

Grandad’s Diaries in World War 2

Grandad’s diaries cover each of the years from 1939 to 1945. Again, he used a wide variety of diaries. His 1939 diary was from Prudential and he used some brands he had used before, including Harper and Collins. His 1945 Zodiac diary is inscribed as a gift from mum who would have been ten years’ old at that time. It does not appear that Zodiac was a brand name but also the diary does not seem to make much reference to signs of the zodiac with the possible exception of a logo on one of the first few pages.

Grandad’s World War 2 diaries

There were a large number of significant family events during this period. Although the title refers to “a funeral”, in fact four funerals are noted here.

Wedding 1: Olive Evans and Alf Holland

In December 1939, Olive Evans, Eva’s daughter – so grandad’s niece and mum’s first cousin – married Alf Holland. Mum was bridesmaid. On the photos, mum has written, “Me – bridesmaid to cousin Olive (Carole’s mum). The dress was blue with tiny flowers embroidered on it. I was 5. I think it was Christmas Eve.”  According to grandad’s diary, it was Christmas Day. Mum and grandma went into Nottingham in November to get mum’s dress. After they were married, Alf and Olive went to live in Grantham. Mum and grandma visited them there at least twice during this period, in 1940 and 1945.

Olive Evans was grandad’s niece. She married Alf Holland in December 1939
Mum with Olive
Olive being photographed by mum
Brother and sister – Roy and Olive Evans
Alf Holland and Olive Evans on their wedding day
Wedding party at Alf and Olive’s wedding – Arthur Evans is beside and behind Alf. Roy and Eva are in line with Olive to her left. Mum is the smaller of the two bridesmaids on the left
Mum as bridesmaid with “friends” (see Chapter 22)
Mum as bridesmaid to Olive Evans and below

Wedding 2: Roy Evans and Kathleen Kemp

Olive’s brother, Roy Evans, also got married during the war, in the third quarter of 1941 although this is not recorded in grandad’s diary. It is not clear whether the Parkins attended but mum had quite a few photos of Roy, including of the wedding so it seems likely they may have. Roy married Kathleen (Kath) Kemp and it appears their wedding was held locally. Roy would have been 20 or 21. In February 1944, they had a daughter, Lynne.

Wedding of Roy Kemp and Kathleen Kemp in 1941. Photo shows Mrs Kemp, Mr Kemp, Alf Holland,  Roy Evans, Kath Evans (nee Kemp), Olive Holland, Arthur Evans, Eva Evans
Roy Evans
Roy Evans and Kathleen Kemp at their wedding in 1941

Wedding 3: Edna Deakin and Thomas Bust

Through chapel, the Parkins were friendly with the Deakins and they feature extensively in mum’s and grandad’s later diaries. In February 1941, mum went to the wedding of Edna Deakin to Thomas Bust.

Edna Deakin and Tom Bust’s wedding 1941

Wedding 4: Verlie Deakin and Bill Purvis

Two years later, in March 1943, mum attended the wedding of Verlie Deakin, Edna’s sister, to Bill Purvis. They got engaged in May 1942 and their engagement was announced in the Berwickshire News and General Advertiser.  That wedding was taken by Arthur Lofthouse, the Methodist minister at the time.

Wedding 5: Frank (Jim) Seville and Ethel Irene (Renie) Heath

Mum was a bridesmaid again when Frank (Jim) Seville married Ethel Irene (Renie) Heath in June 1942 at Bridge St Church in Mansfield. This couple are of particular interest to me as they were known to me as a child, as Uncle Jim and Auntie Renie. Jim and my grandma were first cousins (i.e. their mothers were sisters) which made him my first cousin twice removed.

Jim and Renie’s wedding in 1942 featuring
Back row – Mr Heath, Renie’s uncle, and Mrs Heath, Renie’s mother (presumably), Auntie Bertha, Uncle Frank
Middle row – Peggy Leeson (perhaps), Jim, Renie, Bert 
Front row – Marilyn, mum
Ethel Irene (Renie) Heath
Frank (Jim) Seville – his father was also called Frank
News cutting of Jim and Renie’s wedding
Jim and Renie at their wedding in 1942

Wedding 6: Arthur Hill and Irene Vaughan

Although I have not found any mention of this wedding in grandad’s diary, grandma had a photograph of the wedding of their friends, Arthur and Irene Hill (nee Vaughan), in one of her albums. From FreeBMD, it appears that they got married in Basford District in the second quarter of 1942.

Wedding of Irene and Arthur Hill in 1942

Wedding 7: Basil Parkin and Hilda Lowe

There was another family wedding during the war. In February 1942, Cyril’s son, Basil, married Hilda Lowe in the district of Bingham to the east of Nottingham. The Parkins may have been unable to attend but grandad noted the wedding in his diary.

Wartime Weddings
During the second world war, there was an upsurge in weddings with couples unsure of the future and anxious to formalise their relationships. Weddings were often simpler and less formal than before and after the war both because of the privations of wartime and the desire to avoid what might be seen as inappropriate ostentation. Weddings often needed to be planned at very short notice to take advantage of a period of leave from the military.
Some brides did manage to wear a traditional white wedding dress, often reusing one that had been used previously by a relative or friend. However, many did not. They might simply have worn the best dress they had or they may have made something for the wedding with what they had available with the emphasis on something they could wear again. It is interesting to note that three of the brides (Edna, Olive and Irene) in these wartime weddings of family and friends wore traditional white wedding dresses while two (Kath and Renie) did not.
Cutting from the work of Norman Longmate “How We Lived Then” giving details of wartime weddings
Cutting showing photo of wartime wedding from the work of Norman Longmate “How We Lived Then

War Babies

Basil and Hilda Parkin had a son, Simon, in 1943. Grandma and mum visited at the end of 1943 to see the baby. They also visited at other times during the war. For example, in July 1941, mum and her friend, Dorothy Lofthouse, went to stay at Cyril’s for a few days’ holiday. Another baby was born within the wider family during the war. Len, Olive’s son, and his wife Dolly had a son in January 1942, Michael Ian. In grandad’s diaries, he is referred to as Michael but, in mum’s diaries and other papers, she calls him Ian.

Ian with David Hill and mum

Thomas Holmes

There were also  a number of deaths of family members and friends during this period although none of them were the direct effects of war. Grandad’s diaries often referred to a couple called Tom and Annie. In 1930, they gave grandma and grandad a dinner service as a wedding present and, from 1926, grandma and grandad frequently went to Annie’s for tea on a Sunday before going to chapel. Throughout the 1920s and 30s, grandad noted doing many odd jobs for Annie. In 1932, Tom and Annie and grandma’s mother and father moved into neighbouring houses in Welbeck Street, numbers 96 and 98 (see Chapter 24).

I confess that initially, I was not completely clear who Tom and Annie were. I had thought for some time that they must be related to grandma and grandad in some way. Anyway, around 3pm on 20 April 1943, Tom was in his garden and suddenly died.  I was left with a similar feeling to when I found out that Joe Dovey had died (see Chapter 10). Partly, I was sad and, partly, I was frustrated that I did not really know who Tom was and what his connection was to the Parkins. However, following Tom’s death, I went through the records of the new Kingsway cemetery and found that he was Thomas Holmes and that he was 64 when he died.

Extract from new Kingsway cemetery register – image source Ashfield District Council

I still could not find a record of Tom and Annie getting married but I was continuing to work under the assumption that Annie was related to grandma or grandad in some way, perhaps a Parkin or a Bowler. Reviewing grandad’s diaries, I found that, in November 1930, “Tom, Annie and Mrs Aldridge came for tea”. This made me wonder if Mrs Aldridge was Annie’s mother and, armed with this information, I found on FreeBMD that she was Annie E Aldridge and that she and Tom had been married in the second quarter of 1925 in Northampton (see box).

I think part of the problem in trying to track Tom and Annie down was that there were two significant Annie’s in grandad’s diary – this one and grandad’s sister-in-law, James’ wife, who emigrated to Canada – and I had problems identifying them both! I also had records for two Toms and a Tommy. There was a Tom who worked with grandad from when he started at his father’s workshop. There was also a Tommy for whom grandad did various odd jobs in the late 1920s and early 1930s. Also, in June 1925, grandad wrote “went to Tommy’s wedding party”. I therefore concluded that these were all probably the same Tom, not least because the dates of the wedding party fitted with the dates when Tom and Annie were married. However, I found out later that Tom Holmes had worked with grandma’s father Charles Cirket on the railway and that he boarded with them for some time. This means that while some of the references to Tommy in grandad’s diary might relate to him it may have been a different Tom working with grandad in the workshop.

Following Tom’s death, it seems that grandma, and possibly grandad, acted as Executor(s) of Tom’s will as, only a few days after his death, grandad noted that grandma went to probate concerning Tom’s will. In February 1944, grandad noted that they received the deeds of Tom’s house from Derby Building Society and, in November 1945, grandad noted buying Tom’s house from Annie for £400 (see box).  

£400 then would be around £12,000 today. In 1960, grandad sold the house for £1,735, around £28,000 today. According to Zoopla, the property is worth around £135,000 today and was last sold in 1998 for £32,500. I do not know why grandad bought the house from Annie. Initially, I thought it was because she moved elsewhere after Tom’s death. However, this is not the case as she continued to live at 98 Welbeck Street until 1957 when she moved to a council flat. Perhaps Annie needed the cash following Tom’s death. Presumably, Annie then rented the house from grandma and grandad but I don’t know how much rent was charged.
Annie, grandma, Tom and mum [woman in deckchair in foreground unknown but mum thought it might be Auntie Rose]
Grandma, Tom and mum. Mum’s notes with these photos explain that her Auntie Annie and Uncle Tom (who was not a “real” uncle) lived next door to grandma’s parents in Welbeck Street, Kirkby in Ashfield.

Beryl Green

The Parkins were also friendly with the Greens, who lived next door to them in Station Street (see box note 1). It may be that there had been some business arrangement between the families initially as, in June 1919, grandad noted that his father had gone to Hucknall (see box note 2) to see “Green” about “Station Street property” (see box note 3). Whatever the business arrangements, the families became friends. For example, in 1933, they went away to Skegness together. Also that year, Mrs Green cut grandad’s hair managing to cut grandad’s ear which he considered a “great joke” (see box note 4). As was his habit, grandad did practical jobs for them. It may have been the Greens’ son, Cliff(ord) who got grandad interested in birds and aviaries. In 1938, Cliff lent grandad his aviary for as long as he wanted it. 

[1] When grandad referred to the Greens living next door to them, I thought this was next door to the shop at 72 Station Street. However, in the press notice when Beryl died, their address is given as 17 Station Street. Grandad’s diaries refer to a shop in 15 Station Street on which he paid a deposit and then sold to Ray in March 1945. 15 Station Street is now a kebab shop and 17 is an opticians. But, I also found evidence (see Chapter 65) that Mrs Green ran a hairdressers at 70 Station Street so perhaps they did live next-door to 72.

[2] Grandad’s father’s trip to Hucknall to see the Greens ties in with the press notice of Beryl’s death which describes her as a native of Hucknall.

[3] I am not sure what the purpose of grandad’s father’s visit to Hucknall was. It seems grandad’s father bought a property in Station Street in April 1919 for £1,600. I assume this was number 15 that grandad later owned. It appears that grandad’s father also rented the property at number 72 from the Greens but this pre-dated the property purchase as grandad was living there in 1914. Perhaps grandad’s father wanted to discuss something either about the property next-door to where the Greens lived (#15) or the property he was renting from them (#72).

[4] I confess to being unsure what the joke was in relation to Mrs Green cutting grandad’s ear. From what I recall of grandad, I am not sure he would have found this funny! It is also a little odd as Mrs Green was a practicing hairdresser.

The Greens also had a daughter, Beryl who was around ten years older than mum with whom mum recalled playing. There are photos of them playing together. In May 1938, grandad noted that Beryl had pushed him into a pond! Anyway, in July 1941, Beryl died. Mum was sent to Tom’s for a week and, during that time, Beryl was buried. Mum, who was seven at the time, was not involved in the funeral and it appears that no-one explained to her what had happened. It must have seemed to her that one minute her friend was there and the next she was gone. She wrote on the back of one of the photographs, “Beryl lived next door to us at Station Street. As you can see, she is Mongoloid [see box]. She died but I have no idea when or how. It wasn’t talked about in those days”. Among mum’s papers, there was a newspaper cutting about Beryl’s death. This shows that not only did grandma and grandad give a floral tribute but so did Eva, Arthur and family (Olive and Roy) and Olive, John and their son Len and his wife Dolly.

Mum used the term “mongoloid” to refer to what is now called Down syndrome. I have retained the term despite its offensive and misleading nature as this is what she wrote and it was a commonly used term at that time.
Mum and Beryl Green playing together – also in picture below
Press article concerning Beryl’s death

William Arthur Cirket

Two of grandma’s paternal uncles died during this period. Grandad noted that grandma went to Elstow in April 1945 to attend her “Uncle Will’s” funeral. Based on the Cirket family tree (see below), William Arthur Cirket was the second of grandma’s father’s four siblings. He was born in Elstow in January 1866 so was 79 when he died. He married Ruth Emily Stapleton (grandma’s Aunt Ruth). He was a bricklayer and builder, and he was also Elstow Parish Clerk.

Extract from Cirket family tree that was given to mum by Alan Cirket in 1999

Samuel George Cirket

I also found among mum’s papers a note of a funeral service for Samuel George Cirket following his death on 31 July 1939 aged 75. I did not however find any note of his death in grandad’s diaries. The funeral was held at Alford Road Methodist Church in Sutton-on-Sea on 2 August 1939. Reviewing grandad’s diary, it seems the family did go to Lincolnshire and Mablethorpe from 6 to 10 August 1939. Given Mablethorpe’s proximity to Sutton-on-Sea, it seems likely that this trip was connected to Samuel’s death. Samuel was grandma’s father’s eldest brother having been born in October 1863. He was a teacher and was a headteacher in Sutton-on-Sea although his name is mis-recorded as Samuel G Cricket! According to a newspaper article among mum’s papers, on the occasion of his 73rd birthday, he was also a magistrate and had been both chairman and clerk for the local council. He had been a Methodist local preacher from the age of 22 and had been county president of the Local Preachers’ Mutual Aid Society.

Notice of Samuel Cirket’s death
Newspaper article concerning Samuel Cirket dated approximately 1937